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Lack of independence
So I am actually doing pretty good at the moment, still have some issues, it's going in the right direction, I get a lot of therapy, and I am really fond of inner unity, which is related to the work you do. But my question is, sometimes when figuring out what the actual issue is, it can be difficult, am I dealing with a symptom or the root cause, so if I say that I have a hard time being independent, I sort of ask questions sometimes that I already know, and know the answer, figuring things out myself is still hard, like I want someone to take the steering wheel, and I might have a leechy vibe? I've heard people tell me that I should have more faith in myself and be more independent, but it's still like hard to do.? Any suggestions?
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You are aware of your issues, you are doing therapy/healing on yourselves, bettering yourself and asking here for feedback/suggestions.
I don't think a person lacking independence would be doing all of this
But yes, based on what you said you can improve it.
- "Sometimes when figuring out what the actual issue is, it can be difficult, am I dealing with a symptom or the root cause"
Having a proper training in trauma therapy will definitely help, giving you the knowledge and experience to diagnose yourself and find the root cause of your issue/symptoms.
Sometimes even I as a therapist, it can get tricky to diagnose myself if I'm really triggered.
So I will either wait to get calmer and being able to diagnose myself, or I will ask a colleague-friend to support me in diagnosing myself.
- "Figuring things out myself is still hard, I want someone to take the steering wheel, and I might have a leechy vibe"
I would suggest working with a trauma therapist to help you heal the root cause of those needs behind what you said that are making you feel this way.
I think the s-holes technique, with simple traumas healing would be a good start.
- "I've heard people tell me that I should have more faith in myself and be more independent, but it's still like hard to do."
If someone was telling to a disabled person in a wheelchair: "force yourself a bit, to walk, run", what do you think would happen?
Probably, not much.
My suggestion, would be to talk to a trauma therapist and gets help on getting more faith in yourself and being more independent.
Your therapist should also be able to help you remove this sense of "it's hard to do".
Have a great day and you can reach out to me whenever.